A lot of misinformed people think they know everything about body language. They’ve watched a brief TV segment on mirroring, or they’ve read an article in a magazine about negative posture or defensive gesturing, and suddenly they’re experts and can decipher every action a person makes. But the truth is, most people, especially the faux experts, don’t know nearly as much as they think they do.
This book tries to bridge that gap — to discredit the fallacies, fill in the holes of knowledge and to explain that not everything can be deduced from a simple arm-cross or shoulder shrug, although they may be significant; if the action doesn’t mean anything specifically by itself, clustered with another piece of body language, it can reveal a lot.
The book does well at explaining the complexity of pattern observation and clusters. And as well as its breakdown of negative and positive body language, and how we can manipulate our own body language, or that of other people, to suit our needs, it also delves into the area of lying and how we can tell if somebody isn’t being truthful with us. Again, like body language as a whole, it’s not as simple as “he touched his nose, he’s lying” — it’s more complicated than that, and the book conveys this message in a straightforward and simplistic manner without losing credibility.
By no means a comprehensive guide, it still contains enough hints, tips and insight to warrant a purchase. If you want to master your own body language, or that of a friend or lover, then I’d suggest taking a look at this book, and then maybe do some follow-up research.
Now stop crossing your arms — it’s defensive.
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